Signs someone is serious about you (in the first few weeks)

How do you know if someone is serious about you?

Someone who’s serious about you is consistent. They reply reliably, make plans ahead, follow through, ask about your life and remember the answers, and say plainly that they want a relationship. A few weeks of that tells you more than any grand gesture.

Green flags

• Consistency. Their attention doesn’t swing from intense to absent.
• Plans ahead. “Are you free Thursday?” on Monday, not at 9pm the same night.
• Follow-through. They do what they say they’ll do.
• Curiosity. They ask about your work, friends and family, and remember.
• Honesty about intent. They say what they’re looking for without being asked twice.
• Respect for your pace. No pressure to move faster than you want.

Mixed signals worth noticing

• Hot-and-cold attention.
• Only last-minute plans.
• Vague answers about what they want.
• Reluctance to meet in person after weeks of messaging.
• Any request for money — that’s a scam, whatever the story. See how to spot a romance scam.

Just ask

After a month or so, it’s fair to ask what they’re looking for. Someone serious will be glad you asked. A vague answer is an answer.

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